Choose 3 words that describe your life in New York right
now.
Name one of your favorite foods or dishes in the city. Where
do you get it?
Describe your apartment in the language of New York
realtors. What detail do you omit?
Describe your perfect Saturday in New York from morning
until night.
Name 3 things you and other New Yorkers have in common.
What is one dream you have for your future in New York?
What is a simple pleasure of yours in the city?
If a time machine could transport you to any time and place in
New York’s history, where would you go?
Alternate sharing places you love in New York. Share a
total of five places.
What do you love to do absolutely alone in New York?
If you could go back in time and change one thing about your
life in New York so far, what would it be?
If you could trade places with another New Yorker for one
day, who would you choose?
Tell your partner about a significant high point of your life
in New York so far.
Tell your partner about a significant low point of your life
in New York so far.
If you could go dancing or see live music anywhere in the city
this weekend, what is your dream venue and what music is
playing?
What is one special thing about New York that can be easy
to forget?
Describe the last time you discovered or experienced something
magical in the city.
What is something in New York that your partner needs to
try once?
What does being a friend in New York mean to you?
Complete this sentence:
“I wish I had someone in
New York with whom I could ... “
What did you last choose to wait in line for in New York?
If you were going to become roommates with your partner,
please share what would be important for them to know.
If
you are roommates already, share something they do not know
about you yet.
When did you last cry in front of another person in the city?
By yourself?
Take one minute and tell your partner about a striking
New York memory in as much detail as possible.
If you were leaving New York tonight with no chance to
return, what would you most regret not having achieved?
If you could open any business or venue in New York, what
and where would it be?
Your apartment building catches fire from an e-bike
battery.
After saving your loved ones and pets, you
have time to make a final dash and save any one item. What
would it be? Why?
What is the last thing you’ve done for the very first
time in New York?
Describe a person you met in New York that left a strong
impression on you. How did you meet them?
What is your favorite sound in the city? What is your least
favorite?
How has the city changed you?
Make three true “we” statements each:
For instance,
“We both live in New York feeling ... “
You’re taking a walk through the city by yourself. What
music are you listening to, if any? Where are you walking?
Of all the places and venues in New York, which closure
would you find most upsetting? Why?
What is the one amenity you would love to have in your home or
free access to nearby that would be life-changing?
Share a challenge you’re facing in navigating life in
New York and ask for advice on how to handle it.
Also,
ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be
feeling about the challenge you have chosen.
Inspired by
36 Questions, this list is for New Yorkers to get to know each other through
the lens of the city they share.
Use it on first dates, subway rides with signal problems and
everything in between.
Instructions
With a partner or group, take turns answering each question in
order.
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thank you to eric, bailey and marc